Memorial Day - BBQ's - 5/30/2008
Tuesday, June 24th 2008 @ 2:49 PM
Memorial Day Blog
Do other people with ADD hate holiday barbeques or it just me? First of all, I don’t like the conformity of it “its memorial day so ready, set, go-everyone barbeque.” Don’t they know (whoever it is that orders these culture wide directives) that you may be otherwise mentally engaged at the time!
Ok, I don’t mean to be anti-social. What is it really about these kinds of events I don’t like from an ADD perspective? It partially has to do with small talk -- usually you are at a barbeque with people you don’t know, who are talking about things you don’t know about or are not interested in; or with people who are talking about other people who have the same difficulties you are struggling with or covering up.
If you are a woman the whole day may call upon skills you struggle with but try to hide like cooking or baking or knowing the details about curtains or the names of a 100 varieties of plants or flowers.
I know many of you are actually good at those things, but then maybe you don’t know the last time you read a whole book or maybe you don’t have the latest political details to argue effectively, or maybe you just don’t enjoy watching or hearing about everyone’s gifted or perfectly adjusted children who are all around you good naturedly throwing around a Frisbee. However it is -- you are trying to fit in, trying to eat without spilling, walking with plates without bumping into things, talking without interrupting -- all at the same time, in addition to being overwhelmed by kids and noise and crowds, with no structure, too much stimulation, and at the end of day being asked to neatly wrap leftovers.
Personally, I would rather be blogging than barbequing!
