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Changes We Can Believe In - 6/06/2008

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Change We Can Believe In - 6/06/2008

Tuesday, June 24th 2008 @ 2:56 PM    post viewed 641 times

The theme for me this past week seemed to be the tension between the forces for change and resistance to change. Maybe its my ADD brain that made me connect these events, but from the historic barrier smashing nomination in this country’s history all the way to the

James Taylor concert I went to outside of Detroit the next day, this theme seemed to be everywhere I looked this week.

 

The audience at the concert under gently falling rain clearly adored James -- so much so that I guess they felt their relationship (even though one sided) all these years gave them the right to expect there would be no changes; that time would stand still for all of us boomers; and that James would sit on a stool for two hours and sing every one of his old tunes as if no time had passed and as if nothing had changed… in us, for him, or in the world.

 

I tried to feel superior to those complainers I heard in the bathroom line during the break. After all, I actually loved James’ version during the first set of “Oh what a beautiful morning” from the opening scene of the early Broadway show Oklahoma. Evidently not everyone shared my enthusiasm for change and growth.

 

Even though I prided myself on the fact that I understood James’ desire for artistic growth, I must admit that deep down I too was  struggling to accept the fact that things had indeed changed in the almost 40 years since I last saw him. I was working hard to compromise and accept that only every third song would be one of those real James Taylor songs and that I would get only partly what I wanted.

 

40 years ago since I last saw James in Detroit… a couple years after the city I loved, the city I grew up in and watched with pride give birth to Motown, went up in smoke, along with the dreams that our generation united through music, were just beginning to believe -- that the racial divide would end.

 

 So to be sitting there right outside of Motown somewhere between the FIRE of those early years and the RAIN of this lovely night, as James sang us a Motown song instead of one of his own, on a night after witnessing those dreams re-emerge in this country for a whole new generation  of young people, I remembered that change is not a choice. It is actually the only thing we can believe in and count on. The only thing we can do is celebrate the changes we hoped for and work hard to accept the things we hoped would never change. Our choice is not between change or no change, but whether or not we will enjoy the show anyway, even if they change the tune a little, whether we will respect each other, compromise, work together, and balance our competing needs.

 

So on this historic week, a night after this huge win for America, regardless of your politics, I must admit that when James came back for his encore, I fully expected him to sit down on that stool, look me deep in the eye through the big screen and sing FIRE and RAIN to me.  Instead, he and the band played an amazing rock and roll medley.

 

I felt sad for a moment. Then, I looked up at James having a great old time. He looked me deep in the eye and smiled. I started to dance and clap my hands. This was the kind of change I can believe in

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JaneSrygley said on Friday, June 27th 2008 @ 2:38 PM:

"The only thing we can do is celebrate the changes we hoped for and work hard to accept the things we hoped would never change."

Beautifully put, Sari. Thanks.

Jane


duck
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duck said on Friday, August 29th 2008 @ 7:57 PM:

Sari I just finished copying into my journal your lovely statement about change repeated by Jane.  At mid-life, having experienced some of the inevitable changes and accepting that there are surely more to come I've learned to spend less time trying to prevent the "bad changes" I have little control over and more time wringing every ounce of joy from the good ones.

One you've made a difference for,

TC


brenda louise exparza
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cowgirlbren said on Friday, January 9th 2009 @ 10:08 PM:

i just found this blog and loved your comments about james, i grew up with him

and his music has magically appeared on the radio at times when i felt like i just

couldn't go on(you've got a friend)..it made me feel like there really was something

watching out for me...its amazing i've made it this far!! i am 57 and only realized

in the last two years that i'm add..no one would believe me being the quiet,

inattentive, artistic type..i was so happy when i heard the positive characteristics,

intuitive, out of box thinking, multi talented etc.. it finally all made sense..at times

i feel like i'll never make it, especially not having other adders to communicate

with as i realize how all these add traits(positive and negative)play out in my

life...i have been learning so much about myself being add from you sari, and

all the other people who i believe are connected to each other to change the

way add is perceived.. i am truly grateful to get to take part in this change and

hope to be able to become the talented, intelligent person who was underneath

the person who thought she was weird, different and stupid...

i'm proud to be add..  thank you so much for your voice, it has made such a dif-

ference...

cowgirlbren